- I liked the coding work, and focusing on html. I really enjoyed these projects and the Scratch programming was very insightful and gave a brand new idea for us to focus on. The way we got to create things was great for allowing us to express ourselves.
- This class was great, i can’t think of any dislikes with this course.
- Maybe more quotes should be incorporated from modern famous people, this way we students could relate and understand more. More free writing posts should be given to allow for expression. The goals journals should be allowed to be any kind of journal, maybe even pocket-sized, to allow for portable goals, and reading.
- A highlight of this class had to be the gem quotes, they were inspiring and motivating. It helped to form our computer skills and our minds.
- I tried to do my best in this class, noting how difficult this year was for me. So much, happened in my personal life, and at times it was difficult to cope with school as well. I gave what i could and tried the most i was able to.
- My goals journal has helped me be more confident and has allowed me to accomplish more than i ever have in my entire life. For this i am thankful because it helped keep me on track with my goals, and i achieved them. I read them in the morning and at night to note what i accomplished or would accomplish within that day. It’s funny because my younger brother always questions why i read my homework over and over again, i just explain how it isn’t homework at all, and how it is actually something i enjoy doing it.
- I want to be Ctr person because i’ve always wanted to stand for good and to do good with everything that i can do. I believe in superheroes and this counts, it saves people. I want to make a positive difference in the world and this is a start to making good.
- I will pass forward the leadership skills i learned and pass forward all the quotes that inspired me.
- I will always remember what i learned here and how this class helped me grow.
STUDENT SUCCESS STATEMENT
“YOU WILL GO FAR WITH CTR”
CTR stands for choose the right, in this phrase: choosing the right. Choosing the right, is more than just a direction in which to travel, a goal, and mindset. It means choosing good, it means choosing what is right above what is wrong. Over these last four years, our wonderful educator listed above, has given this advice to the generations that have entered his computer lab. Whether we take it or not, he is right. Each person has the option to be good, to do justice, and to be more than just the common individual. Choosing the right is like being a superhero. You do good for others and yourself, fighting for justice and good in dark times. I believe that when you adopt this ideal you put on your own superhero cape. The ideal cloaks you, and protects you from the bad of the world. The first time i heard this phrase i was in ninth grade, my freshmen year, to me, it could have just been any quote on the wall, but it was an entire universe of quotes in one. Mr. Haymore please keep believing in the good in people, and please keep inspiring young minds. Without you none of us would be the same. With this quote, our senior class, and myself, grew. We grew with the idea that this was what was right. The advice given was much more than a simple computer lesson, these were life lessons. With these we came to believe in more.
“Memorial Day is a federal holiday in the United States for remembering the people who died while serving in the country’s armed forces.The holiday, which is observed every year on the last Monday of May, originated as Decoration Day after the American Civil War in 1868, when the Grand Army of the Republic, an organization of Union veterans founded in Decatur, Illinois, established it as a time for the nation to decorate the graves of the war dead with flowers.By the 20th century, competing Union and Confederate holiday traditions, celebrated on different days, had merged, and Memorial Day eventually extended to honor all Americans who died while in the military service.It typically marks the start of the summer vacation season, while Labor Day marks its end.”
Memorial Day is a great way to honor those soldiers that have fallen in battle, and to remember them.
- Be true to your character.
Who you are is essential in defining who you will become and how you can get there. Your character is made up of your reactions to things, and actions towards others. You can appear to be a mean individual due to saying mean things and you can be a good individual due to doing good things. It’s all up to you. Whatever you do, is all you, and you stick to it. Sometimes an attitude can lead to habits and ways of thinking that stay. Being who you are should come naturally. This can sometimes change or be affected by our personal relationships, and the mode of society we are in. Success can affect a character due to the changes iny our life. You get a better home possibly, a bigger paycheck, a nicer car, luxurious items, a new set of friends, and basically a new lifestyle. However big the changes may be, this should not change you. Being successful and staying successful is being true to who you are. This is a factor nobody can force you to change but you do willingly.
There has been moments in my life that my surroundings have affected the way i amm towatrds things, and i have lerarned that no matter how diifficult the situation, or how high expectations are of you, only oyu can beat them. Surpassing adversity requires being focused, and this means focused on who you are in total. if you worry about what others think of you this can lead to your downfall. Only you can judge yourself, and you should only judge yourself if you are willing to improve yourself.
2. Use your imagination.
Your imagination is the key factor to your individuality and passion. Imagination can also lead to you accomplishing more because of your thoughts. Being different can count as an assest in when you can create something nobody else has ever created. Be imaginative, be a dreamer, wish and hope and create the never-before-seen awe and wonder in people. Thought proccess can never be the same between individuals, people can think ” alike” but never exactly the same that is the beauty of having a mind. I want to work in the parades/ meet & greet characters in disneyland, mainly because i want to spread happinesss to children, and bring them hope. Children really imagine and believe in the characters that brign them hope and i want to bring magic. I guess that’s what makes my imagination move; making people happy.
3. Apply the power of knowledge
What is knowledge? Simple, it is experience, it is thought process, wisdom, what you know, not just in your mind, but heart. Being smart isn’t always about numbers, sometimes it’s about knowing the truth to things. Knowing that certain things are enough and they are smart and meaningful. For example, one must follow their heart, a quote of wisdom, knowing and understanding this is knowledge. Follow your heart, your intuition, what you believe, be true to yourself. This is the essential factor to being “wise,” and to being successful. Another scenario, when you first touched fire it burned, so when you cook now with fire or light candles, you are careful. Knowing, that fire burns is knowledge.
In everyday usage, knowledge refers to awareness of or familiarity with various objects, events, ideas, or ways of doing things. But, as philosophers have noted for centuries, things get complicated fairly quickly. Consider, for example, the question: What is real? Is the coke bottle on my desk real? Are the trees outside my window real? What about the number pi? What about the pain from the slight cut on my finger? As one ponders these questions, they quickly give rise to the question of how do I come to know things in the first place?
Separating the “How” from the “What” of Knowledge
With some reflection, it becomes clear that, at least to some extent, what is real for me depends in part on how I come to know things. For example, my perceptual, cognitive background structures allow me to experience and understand the Coke bottle on my desk in a particular way; different perceptual or cognitive background structures would result in a different reality. This point was well made in the 1980 film, The Gods Must Be Crazy, which tells the story of the dramatic impact a Coke bottle dropped by a passing airplane had on an isolated tribe in the Kalahari Desert.
The tribesmen interpreted the bottle as a gift from the gods, and the film tracked how that meaning permeated the tribe and impacted its members. This brief example highlights the two broadest angles philosophers take regarding knowledge, which is that of “epistemology” and “ontology.” Ontology refers to the question of reality and is about determining what can be said to really exist in the world. In contrast, epistemology refers to how we humans know things. A “theory of knowledge” would explain what knowledge was, how humans could come to know things, what truly existed in the world, and the complicated relationship between the two.
A Basic Approach to Conceptualizing Knowledge
One of the oldest and most venerable traditions in the philosophy of knowledge characterizes knowledge as “justified true belief”. Although not all philosophers agree that “justified true belief” does in fact adequately characterize the nature of knowledge, it remains the most dominant conception of knowledge. Thus, for many, knowledge consists of three elements: 1) a human belief or mental representation about a state of affairs that 2) accurately corresponds to the actual state of affairs (i.e., is true) and that the representation is 3) legitimized by logical and empirical factors. To be clear about this last element, it is not considered knowledge if, for example, a child, when asked about the molecular nature of water, says “H 2 0” simply because he is parroting what he has heard. In contrast, a chemist who answers “H 2 0” has knowledge because his representation is meaningfully networked and justified by much prior knowledge and careful deductive work.
Justification, thus, is central to this idea of knowledge. The question of what kind of justification is necessary to constitute knowledge is the focus of much reflection and debate among philosophers. Three prominent approaches that have been taken in an attempt to articulate how justifiable beliefs are formed are: 1) foundationalism, which attempts to articulate foundationally true beliefs, from which other conclusions can be derived; 2) coherentism, which argues that knowledge consists of systems and must be evaluated on the degree to which the system has logical coherence that corresponds to external facts; and 3) reliablism, which argues that there are good and bad ways to develop beliefs, and that justified beliefs are those beliefs that are formed based on good and reliable methods. Although philosophers disagree on which is most fundamental, most agree that justification can and should involve all of these elements.
Kinds of Knowledge
Philosophers often divide knowledge up into three broad domains: personal, procedural, and propositional. Personal knowledge relates to firsthand experience, idiosyncratic preferences, and autobiographical facts. Procedural knowledge refers to knowledge how to do something, such as how to play basketball or ride a bike. Propositional knowledge refers to general truth claims about the world and how we know it. An important difference between philosophy and psychology can be seen in these various kinds of knowledge. Whereas philosophers have generally been concerned with general propositional knowledge, psychologists have generally concerned themselves with how people acquire personal and procedural knowledge.
Ways of Knowing: Empirical and Rational
By what mechanisms do we come to achieve knowledge? The two most dominant answers to this question in philosophy have come from the rationalists and the empiricists. The rationalists argue that we utilize reason to arrive at deductive conclusions about the most justifiable claims. Rationalists tend to think more in terms of propositions, deriving truths from argument, and building systems of logic that correspond to the order in nature. Rene’ Descartes and Immanuel Kant are some of the most famous rationalists, in contrast to John Locke and David Hume, who are famous empiricists.
Empiricists tend to argue that the most basic knowledge we achieve about the world comes from our senses, the direct observations that we make about the world. The distinction between the rationalists and empiricists in some ways parallels the modern distinction between philosophy and science. As the scientific method emerged and became increasingly distinct from the discipline of philosophy, the fundamental distinction between the two was that science was constructed on empirical observation, whereas the initial traditions in philosophy (e.g., Aristotle) were grounded more in utilizing reason to build systems of knowledge.
Modern versus Post-Modern Views on the Nature of Knowledge
The birth of science gave rise to the Enlightenment, and arguably the defining feature of the Enlightenment was the belief that humans could use reason and scientific observation and experimentation to develop increasingly accurate models of the world. Such models were conceived to be “true” in the sense that they described ontology (the way the world was) in a manner that was separate from subjective impressions. The Periodic Table of Elements is a great example of the success of the idea that nature can be objectively described.
But in many disciplines, especially in the social sciences and humanities, since the 1960s there has been an increasing chorus of voices that challenge the conception of scientific knowledge as being a pristine, objective map of the one true reality. Instead, many have argued that human knowledge is inherently based on context, that is created in part by the way the human mind organizes and constructs perceptions and also by the way the social context legitimizes certain ideas in various historical and political times, and that these elements cannot be completely divorced from our “knowledge”. These scholars fall under the broad term “postmodernism” to highlight the contrast in assumptions regarding the nature of knowledge in contrast to the modernist assumptions of the Enlightenment.
Recent Systems of Knowledge
Although several modern philosophers seriously doubt whether a successful theory of knowledge can be built, there nonetheless have been identifiable developments in mapping knowledge domains and attempting to develop educational systems that begin with the basic structure and domains of knowledge. One such development has been the development of ‘Theory of Knowledge’ International Baccalaureate Diploma Program that teaches students about the ways of knowing and the domains of knowledge such that they can approach many different areas of inquiry with a grounding in how knowledge systems are build.
A second system that has been gaining some notoriety lately is that of Big History, which attempts to create a macro-level perspective of humans since the beginning of time.
My framework, the Tree of Knowledge System, is an approach that has elements in common with both of these approaches. The ToK System carries as a unique feature the proposition that reality as an unfolding wave of energy and information that has developed in four major phases, Matter, Life, Mind and Culture. As part of a new unified view, I argue that it solve the long standing problem of psychology and thus offers a new way to bridge philosophy and psychology and integrate human knowledge systems in to a more coherent holistic view.
4. Never give up
Setbacks and adversity happen, but a person can’t just sit down and give up. A boxer gets hit about 70 times or more per round in the ring, yet they fight and stand up. Never giving up was bravery. If you were brave enough to stand up and do the very thing that scared you then, by default, you are one brave human being. I suppose life is challenging it. Beating life meant living, it was surviving. People can stop believing in you, but you have only failed the moment when you decide you have. don’t give up on what you want to accomplish. Your accomplishment is part of your success.
5. Find peace and balance
Life needs a balance. It’s a mix of everything, but a person needs to have so much of each thing to live fully. Happiness, sadness, anger, excitement, are all emotions that are kept in balance to remain stable in life. For every dark clump of cloud in the sky, there is at least one ray of sunlight. Sometimes life seems bleak and dark, then out of the sudden something incredible happens and it restores all your faith in humanity. Lately, everything has been hard for me, and yesterday i got a job, this will help my family and i can’t wait for that honestly. This is my sunlight. Life also requires the breaka part of it’s individual counterparts. That means school/work is one, family is one, and friends are one, for the basics. You have your physical appearance, health, mental health, and spiritual health. Keeping everything flowing and calm is key in maintaining peace in the chaos. You must keep yourself healthy, eating right, protecting against toxins. This means toxins in the brain and life such as toxic company, and toxic additions that ae unneccesary in your life. You do not need the liquor, or the THC. You do not need the friend that only brings you down. You don’t need to live in the shabby apartment with rats, when you can live in a home far from the slime on the walls. Find peace within yourself, peace is found with understanding, and hope, and adjustments to better yourself.
6. Live the Golden Rule
I suppose the golden rule would be determined by the person following the rule. A golden rule is a basic principle regarding a person’s strongest morals. In religion, the golden rule is doing unto others as you would have them do unto you. A golden rule doesn’t have to be religious. It can be the basic motto you live by, or a motto you strongly believe in. For example, following your heart, never giving up, and fighting for justice. For superheroes, the golden rule would be fighting for justice. For someone trying to be healthy, their rule could be never giving up. For me, i believe my strongest belief would be to follow your heart, and that has been my golden rule for as long as i could remember it having such high importance in my life. This rule is considered to be my golden standard because of what it means for your life. Being true to your heart means unnderstanding yourself, and being nothing other than what you are, it means living the way you believe in your heart is right, it means trusting your heart above all the corruption and darkness. I follow my heart by staying true to what i say and believe in. I follow my heart by knowing what i feel in my heart is wrong. I follow my heart when i let my heart decide. You know what you are capable of and what you are not, you set your boundaries, and you set your goals. The golden rule is up to you and only you, you live by it.
For example this weekend i folllowed my heart and braved what i was to afraid to. I ziplined, and rock climbed, and paintballed, i was afraid of the height, afraid of the drop, afraid of being hit. But my heart said i could so i did, and i knew deep inside that this strength or courage, or whatever it was, had always been there and that it was enough tot drive me forward.To push me to the brink of adrenaline, to push my passion, to inspire and drive me
7. Build and maintain trust
Trust is what you have for others, for things, and for yourself. You trust in your cellular service provider to give you data and service. You trust your friends to be honest with you. You trust yourself to make the right choice that is best for you. Trust is a simple yet hard thing to keep and have. Trust is never given, but earned. Maintaining and gaining trust means being honest, living up to the expectations you’ve set for yourself, it means staying in blance. If you want trust then you give trust back, trust must be mutual for it to have meaning and be strong. My trust, for example, has remaind the same, if i say it is that then it is what i said because i don’t want to lie. I have mutual trust with my family and friends. For example, I ask my mom if i can go out, she trusts that i’ll acknowledge her rules and be back at the time she specifies, and i trust that she gives me permission to do this and is aware of what i am doing. Another example, a friend may trust me with their secret crush/like, and i can keep their promise because they trust me and i trust them. Trust is easy to keep, just be trustful back.
8. Quick to listen slow to wrath
This means be open minded and hear others out before only sticking to your opinion.Everyone deserves to be heard and this means listening. this can help you be a successful leader because you grow your capacity for empathy and the capacity to learn in yourself. You can collaborate with others and others will hear you out as well and this makes for great cooperation amongst a team. Leaders lead with knowledge, knowledge from experience and from wisdom and from their heart. Open mind and open hearts equals open opportunities and possibilities. Learning to see the opposing views or other views helps when expanding your work.
9. Lead with vision
A true leader must have vision and drive to do what she/he cannot do yet. A goal is something you accomplish that has been set for accomplishment. I want to be a leader. I want to lead with clear goals, and clear understandable reasons for wanting to accomplish the goals. When i say i want to do something, i will, that’s the mindset a person has to have to truly do what they want to do. Being a leader takes guts, and hope. A vision is essential to following your dreams, in a way, a vision is a dream. It is a dream you want in reality. Vision also means seeing, seeing means to look beyond what an individual has accomplished and to what they will accomplish. A vision thus, is a glance at the future to come. Look far beyond today, because what you do today will become what is tomorrow.
10. Manage with a plan
10. Manage with a plan
If you have a plan the world seems easier. Obstacles are dealt with and accounted for in the plan to avoid such challenges or how to deal with the challenge. Plans are useful when deciding things, and making choices seem easier because you understand the benefits and consequences of your actions. Plans are also useful when carrying out ideas, it helps you see where the idea will take you and how yu will get there. These plans are essential when leading a group because it creates order, and a clear understanding of what you and the group will accomplish. I plan to create thank you letters for my peers and teachers, as well as bringing my friends something noting how this will be our last year here. I want to bring my friends roses for the fact that they helped me grow, and they themselves are beautiful people that have endured life just like the flower had. I have been planning the colors and providing reaosning for them, i wish to buy orange rose, or yellow, because they are different, my friends are different, they arent the average red rose and the vibrant shades of orange hues are unique, and still beautiful. This means that you don’t have to be average, you don’t have to fit in, you don’t have to be the same, to be beautiful and to matter. I am planning these ideas becaus ei want those around me to know i truly appreciate them and that they made a diference in my life. I have also planned out future ideas and events i will attend to keep track and stay organized. I run the house in my family, just yesterday i cleaned the fridge and scrubbed the honey remains off the side door of the fridge, i cleaned our trash cans and took out trash, i cleaned dishes, and swept the living room, and tossed out recyclables, and scurbbed our furniture, and organized the laundry so having a plan helps. I make a list of what i need to do, and then proceed in an order that works best. I can wash dishes while the soup is boiling, i can sweep while i pick up clothes, i can wash clothes while im cleaning the fridge, this way i multitask and finish faster. Plans help.
11. Do what matters the most
Doing what is most important is what matters. Its a matter of priorities and focusing your knowledge and time into what truly matters tyo you. If your education is what matters most in your life at the moment then this means channeling all your efforts in to doing what you need to do. this means doing assignments, being accountable for mistakes, and success, being on time, and being focused. Priorities tend to change when going thorugh transitions in your life. That’s is why we don’t notice when we are changing. We are changing with the moment, and we feel it normal for us to be learning and developing. It is part of growing up. As our high school journey is ending soon, i am focusing on what matters the most. Throughout my years in highschool, i have learned that many things influence us. What happens in our lives, those inovlved in our lives, and how we live our lives. I would like to thank my teacher of computer science, new media, Mr. Haymore for the award last thursday. He is truly one of the educators here that has impacted my life and truly helped me succeed here at HPIAM. I learned that IN LIFE, we need to focus on whats important. For me, it is those around us, currently i am developing ideas for letters i wish to write and also gifts i would like to try and give to those i am leaving behind, these individuals are the ones i thank for helping me grow in high school. Channel your focus and heart and mind into what matters the most to you. I have been contemplating what i want to become in the future and have realized i would like to become a computer teacher and help students the way our teacher has influenced us. I want to brighten the minds of future generations, and i have high school to thank for helping me find my path.
12. Be accountable
Being accountable is a matter of perspective. Being accountable may mean being on time, being responsible, and also being there when you are needed. i am loyal and there to support my friends. Because they matter the most to me, ending high school has brought new challenges and new forms of letting go to the present and i honestly really want to be accountable for my friends and to be there for them in all that they do and seek to do in their lives. They are champions, leaders, inspriations, and my strength. Without them, i could never have gotten as far as i am now. We have all been acccountable for each other and i will always support them even when we are apart, this is being accountable. Apologizing when you need to, being honest when you must be, having loyalty, respect, and trust. Accountability is something everyone constantly considers and thinks about.
- Make a commitment to tell the truth.
- Tell someone about your commitment.
Making a commitment to be honest means being honest with others and yourself. Sometimes it’s hard to committ to things but at the end of the day it is rewarding to be able to say you stayed committed and determined on your goals. Sharing your committment with someone else lets them know how focused you are on something and how much it means to you. Your commitment may even come off as an inspiration to them. This choice also means having to be loyal, trustworthy, and determined. For example when being in a committed relationship with someone, each person follows being loyal, determined, and trustworthy. You’ll want to keep the other person’s trust and therefore stay committed. This is the case when sharing your commitment to be truthful. Perhaps you tell your best friend that you will be more truthful from now, they then know you are on a mission to avoid lies, and will be completely honest. This is useful when having to be honest to others, this way they will understand where your honesty is coming from and how true it is. Staying focused means wanting to tell the truth, and this will result in telling the truth.
3. Think before you give a dishonest answer.
Reflecting upon your decision to say something dishonest helps. After you reflect you know you can’t be dishonest so you say the truth. Often we just speak but when we reflect on the words we are speaking, we can change what we intitially planned to say. This helps us understand the situation better and it involves a deeper thinking as to what we ourselves would react when hearing the answer. Being honest also helps long term. If a lie carried on, eventually the truth would become a bigger more painful reveal. being honest als o does not mean being rude. For example, your friend is trying on a dress for prom, and she asks you if it loks nice, but the dress in your view does not flatter her, the best choice is to be honest with her and tell her the truth. However you do not want to offend her or make her insecure, so you can simply reply, ” The dress isn’t so nice, im sure you can find a better one,” and help your friend find a dress that will make her shine that night. Being honest is benefitial to you and the other person. In that scenario, your friend would loo very nice at prom, and you would have helped her look good.
4. Be careful of when and how you use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.
There is always a limit and boundaries. Exaggerations can often lead to misleading comments and answers. This can harm others. Sometimes sarcasm can be seen as rude, and it depends on the person. It is good to have fun and be funny but not at the cost of being seen as a lier or misleading. Exaggeration and sarcasm are not to be used during formal occassions, or sad situations due to hurting others. People could consider it ridicule or bullying.
4. Be careful not to twist the truth or leave part of it out.
The truth is only completely true when it is honest and real. Leaving part out of the truth gives a person only half the true statement, making it only half true, and not truely true. Suppose a little boy when out to ride bikes with his friends, and his mother asks him where have you been, and he was not allowed to go bike riding, so he answers, ” I wasn’t swimming mom,”the answer is true, he was not swimming, but he also does not tell her the truth she was asking for. The truth can be hard to tell sometimes and can lead to consequences, but repeated lies can lead to even more consequences and worst an entire catastrophe when the lies all turn out to be fake. Twisting your words can be misleading, and unless you are yoda, it really isn’t good to twist words. Twisted words means an unclear sentence or conversation and this can confuse and irritate others, it also converts the statement to a lie. The truth so much more beneficial and easier than lying, so why lie?
6. Don’t indulge in little white lies.
White lies are not helpful to others or to you because they grow. The lies also have a tendency to spread to others, and from there on it grows more. White lies are not as innocent as they seem and often we tend to be careless with other lies, and then when we get caught it was over a simple tiny lie. What is a white lie? A harmless or trivial lie, especially one told to avoid hurting someone’s feelings.These lies can backfire however, and even though they are small, they are still lies. For example consider a murder, if you were a suspect and they asked you where you were during the act and you say at your friend Juan’s house, but you were actually at your house one block away from the incident but said nothing to revoke being involved in the murder. So the officers question Juan and juan says you weren’t there. You become suspicious and a lier.The authorities will question why you did not say the truth, and you become a lead suspect for a murder you did not committ, while in fact you could have been home watching spongebob and eating fruit loops. White lies do not benefit and they put you at risk of creating a bigger problem or lie.
7. Watch out for silent lies.
A silent lie is when you keep information to yourself that could help another. This information is a lie because you knew something but chose to be quiet. This often can lead to disaster for the clueless person, and this is being mean to others. For example, say a man is chasing after his runaway daughter to tell her that he loves her and he asks you at the airport, have you seen my daughter and you know which terminal she is in,but say you haven’t seen her. You lied about knowing. Sometimes silent lies aren’t obvious lies, but they will still remain as lies.
Let’s define “lies of omission”.
A lie is simply defined:
- 1) To make a statement that one knows to be false, especially with the intend to
- 2) To give a false impression.
- 3) Anything that gives or is meant to give a false impression.
Different varieties of less obvious lies:
- 1) Derail: To change the subject of discussion in order to avoid the truth (for example, one might pretend to be offended in order to stop a conversation about one’s questionable actions).
- 2) Confuse: quibble or confuse the issue, or deliberately use ambiguity in order to deceive or mislead.
- 3) Misinform: To invent or perpetrate a false story with the intent to deceive or mislead.
The Lie of Omission
Less obvious than the others, a “lie of omission” is to remain silent when personal morals, ethics, professional or even legal responsibilities call for one to speak up.
A lie of omission is a method of deception and duplicity that uses the technique of simply remaining silent when speaking the truth would significantly alter the other person’s capacity to make an informed decision.
8. When you catch yourself lying, throw your mouth into reverse.
Stop the lies and stop lying. Basically if you feel like you are going to lie , do the opposite, tell the truth. Sometimes a lie wants to come out but you know the truth so it is better to tell the truth. Catching yourself about to lie, is like catching yourself about to fall off a cliff, you move away from the cliff, you stop and reverse. Lies are a big bundle of mess, confusion, and pain, its not something you want to throw at someone. Being a lier is like a disease, if you say a lie, those who believe it can spread that lie, then more and more people become liers.
How to stop lying
When trying to stop lying people do the same mistake they do with weight loss, they usually try to fix the symptom instead of dealing with the problem itself.
In weight loss, people usually ignore the fact that they are eating because they are depressed (see emotional eating) and not because they are hungry then in the end they find themselves regaining the weight they have lost.
The same goes for lying prevention, people usually focus on stopping lying itself without examining the real cause behind lying.
If you are serious about stopping lying then you should deal with the real reasons behind lying and not with lying itself. Lying is not the problem but its the symptom that indicates that another problem exists.
Why are you lying?
You will need some courage before you can ask yourself that question. Sit alone in a place where no one can disturb you and then ask yourself the question, why am I lying??
- Do you lack self confidence and want to appear more confident in front of people? After all, lots of people lie just to preserve their self image and to prevent others from judging them.
- Are you lying to gain people’s attention because they usually overlook you? Do you think that people are ignoring you and that they are overlooking you most of the time?? Lots of people lie in order to get back the lost attention that they have never been able to get without lying. (see Attention seeking disorder
- Are you lying because you lack courage?? Lots of people lie because they lack the courage to face the consequences of telling the truth. They usually lie because they lack the required skills for dealing with the anger of others.
- Are you lying to gain acceptance and approval?? Some people think that they
are worthy as long as others approve them and that’s why they keep lying in order to maintain this approval.
The right way to stop lying
If lying has became a habit for you then you should not focus on breaking this habit but instead you should be dealing with the root cause. Whether its building self confidence, developing better social skills or dealing with your fears, it wont matter, what matters is that lying will never end before these underlying reasons end.
Learn how to value yourself without depending on the judgment of others, learn how to be more influential without telling stories that never happened and learn how to have faith in your self and your abilities, only then you will stop lying.
Being truthful is a hard thing to do when you are put in tough situations, but it will always be the right thing. This is being the hero, the bigger person, this is being honest with not only others, but yourself. The truth will always be golden for the fact that the truth can never be changed. I have learned to reflect on my past judgment and focus on improving what i say and think. This has helped me to be more honest with myself. It has also involved a lot morre brain activity as the capacity of my brain grew. Everyone has lied at least some point in their lives. Maybe about their weight, or grades, or about liking something when they really don’t. Lying can comfort those who it benefits, but hurt others. I have learned that it takes a true champion to remain clean andtruthful, and if you are then honestly that is an achievment. Just because a person hasn’t always been truthful doesnt mean they cant change. So if a person hasn’t been always truthful , it is always a good time to start.